What? You let him sleep in your bed? That’s going to totally ruin your sex life, you are creating such a bad habit!
It might be cute now but wait til he’s 6!
He should really be sleeping in his own room by now, otherwise he is going to be such a mommy’s boy.
I’m just about sick of hearing these comments. And mostly… they come from parents-to-be who have this perfect parenting master plan in their heads (as I did once upon a time). So today I thought I’d share with you the reality of co-sleeping and why some parents choose to do it and how it can infact be GOOD for your sex life!
1. Sex is not only reserved for the bedroom and at night
Once we become parents we don’t infact become boring old people. We still enjoy a bit of adventure in our lives and we also own couches. Remember back in the day when life was stress free and you didn’t care whether you made it to the bedroom or not? When each time was different and exciting and missionary wasn’t your go to position. Well that.
2. Parents do not go to bed to have sex
They go to bed to SLEEP! Ask any new Mom or Dad what they miss the most about their pre-baby lives and I guarantee you they won’t say sex. When the baby is asleep and the house is clean and the moon is up, we sleep.
3. Quality vs Quantity comes into play
Just because we aren’t having sex 5 times a week like you are (or claim to be), it doesn’t mean our sex life sux. Let’s be honest – sex is always different after kids and of course it doesn’t happen as often as it used to for most – but that doesn’t mean it’s a bad thing. Having a baby takes your relationship to a whole new level. You develop a new understanding and love for one another and after chatting to a few of my parent friends, the general concensus is that sex after kids is better! BOOM.
4. Babies that co-sleep, sleep better
When babies sleep better, parents sleep better. When parents sleep better, they are happy. Happy people have more energy. You get where I’m going with this…
Of course there are downsides to co-sleeping too, like waking up with tiny toes in your face or not being able to roll over when you have pins and needles in your arm. And these problems are awful. When I wake up and those tiny little toes are the first thing I see, I just know it’s going to be an awful day. { insert sarcastic face here }
And yes maybe the little guy might still want to cuddle with us every once in a while when he gets bigger but he WILL eventually grow out of it. Remember when your parents were so uncool and when they kissed in front of you you wanted to puke? He’ll get there too. But until then, I will cuddle the crap out of him.
So dear judgy judgy, I hope you can understand why some parents choose to co-sleep and how not-so-detrimental it is to their sex lives.
PS: your dog sleeps in your bed.
So true!! And the love i feel when my little human rolls against me or touch my face in the middle of the night.. NOTHING comes to that feeling!! I just feel everyone is safe when i put my head down at night. And there are years ahead when she is all grown up and wants to be a big girl for daddy and me, but for now its her turn ❤
This is so great! Yes sex changes and it is definitely for the better! Yes it’s less often but far more intense. And oh yes I LOVE waking up in the morning when all 3 of us and kitty are in the bed.
Even though I’m not one for co-sleeping (for a number of reasons, I can barely sleep with my husband next to me in our double bed that in fact feels like a single bed most nights…) however I can totally appreciate what you are saying, there is nothing better than waking up in the mornings to the cutest face in the world who looks like an angel when she is sleeping :)
Agreed!
Since Jack has own ‘big boy bed’ since April, at least 5 times of the week we wake up with him in our bed. And yes, having 3 in the bed at 2 in the morning is not the best way to get some rest, but its great having those little guy cuddles, and waking up to him staring at us. And all kids grow out of these ‘habits’ eventually. I am pretty sure our 17 year old sons will not still be sleeping in our beds one day. Enjoy it while it lasts :)
Haha Tami I hope not!